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Angel Hugs

When I was starting my grief journey, I had to teach myself and my children how to cope with the pain on a daily basis. I had to make the statement, “he’s right here in your heart” real to myself and my children. I did this with my Angel Hug.

For myself: I would find a quiet place where I felt safe to just be in the moment. Then I would take my arms and open them up at my sides, and open my clutched fists, and pull my arms into my chest, crossing them over my heart. I would close my eyes, and calm my thoughts. I would visualize a white light of healing energy and love coming down from above, swirling around me. I would just let go and feel this energy, and think of my son’s love, and feel it enter my heart where the emptiness was. I would visualize it as a pulsating force of love, and as the love came in, it pushed the pain out the bottom of my feet into the earth to be dispelled. When I felt the pulsating stop, I would open my eyes, and I would feel amazing! I would be relaxed, peaceful, and the tears would be gone.
We are never alone, we just have to let the love in!

I still do this, even 30 years into my grief journey. I have developed a “quickie” for myself, when out in public. We all have emotional “triggers” that sneak up on us at the worst times…so I can reach up and place my hand over my heart, just for a moment, and give myself a mini hug. People think I have heartburn (yeah you could call it that) or I am going to burp…but what I am doing is reminding myself of the love to push the pain away. It allows me to stay composed in public.

For my children: I would sit or stand behind them, (ages 3 and 8 when I taught them) and have them cross their hearts with open hands, and wrap my arms around them crossing their heart also. I would talk them thru the visualization, and help them to learn how to do this themselves. We would feel the love together, and push the pain out together. We grieved together.

You can call it God’s Love, Angel’s Love, Spirits Love…I just call it LOVE, and it comes from all that is. Love gets us thru the days one breath at a time. And when you let the love in, there is not so much room for the pain.

The words below go well with an Angel Hug:

When tomorrow starts without me
and I am not here to see…
If the sun should rise and find your
eyes filled with tears for me.

I wish so much you wouldn’t cry
The way you did today…
While thinking many things
we didn’t get to say.

I know how much you loved me,
as much as I love you…
And each time you think of me,
I know you’ll miss me too.

So when tomorrow starts without me,
don’t think we’re far apart…
For every time you think of me,
I’m right here in your heart.

~Author Unknown (shortened version)


12 Responses to Angel Hugs

  1. Regina Quinn

    This is a beautiful site
    Thanks for the help with Angel 😇 hugs
    I love the beautiful poem’s this site is helping me alot thanks regina xx

  2. Patricia

    Just started my blog on grieving having lost my husband Nov. 3 2011 still feels like it was yesterday. Running across your website…..Love it. Hoping you would allow me to add you to my blog so I can visit your site when ever I felt the need. Thank you so much

  3. kim

    I’m so broken . I’m unable to do anything. I don’t know how to live without him. I love him so much. I’m up all night and only fall asleep from going without for long periods of time. I can’t function at all. I’m so alone.I have no energy I’m lost. I’ve prayed. I’v tried being with family and feel I’m faking smiles But you can’t make every one as unhappy as you are. So it better being along. It’s so much work to be around people because they expect you to be the old you. Every where I look reminds me of him. I’m empty.

    • admin

      This site is for any loss, and many share your feelings. I wish you love and light on your journey.

  4. Sejal Shah

    Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful way to get over the pain of losing your own.

  5. Patricia Lonaker

    Thanks so much for creating a web site to express my feelings.

  6. Barbara

    Thank you, it is so hard to put your feelings into words , your website helps ease troubled grief stricken minds .

  7. Liz

    This is a beautiful sharing website. Thank you for creating it.

  8. Joshua

    My tears has not gone unnoticed. This site is really helping me .

  9. Sheila Garrett-Hardy

    I love this site and the poem is beautiful!!!

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  11. Linda Gerten

    Beautiful, thank you for sharing your love….I will begin practicing this today

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